Now-a-days a lot of aggressiveness is being shown specially by the youth regarding their doings i.e. in daily routine work. Such aggressiveness does have lots of setbacks resulting into loss of many things. So, an attitude of forgive and then forget should be adopted with any of the persons in and around, whosoever he/she may be, or whatsoever may be.
To forgive means to pardon which in itself has a great meaning oftenly stated by our gurus, saints and in our holy books. But unfortunately, rarely people follow this. The intention is to recall, remind and make the youth understand it, as we feel and so always say that the youths are the force which has the power to change the world. So if the youths do understand this word and its implication very well then their can be a difference in the society.
See, it is not bad to be angry, but it is bad if you retain it, so the process or method of forgive and forget should be followed.
There are again several examples which can be illustrated; frequently a quarrel erupts between friends resulting into a tense atmosphere. If this attitude of forgive and then forget approach is applied, the tension will disappear soon.
To forgive
Those who refuse to forgive carry the “ghost” of the hurtful person and give away their own power to this memory. Without doubt, those with whom one chooses to remain angry will continue to control one, even when and particularly when one denies this is so. Those who have not resolved conflicts with family members will carry that garbage into their current relationships even though they may be blind to the fact. Whatever is repressed is bound to be repeated. Resentment limits one’s emotional, physical and spiritual development. Those who most filled with resentment were the most stuck and the least able to change.
To forgive is 100 per cent responsibility of the injured party because it is only your own behaviour that you can control. The most important truth here is that forgiving is for your own sake, even if the other does not ask for forgiveness or admit any wrong. It is for your health, your wellness and future openness to life.
What to do
A simple way to implement this process of forgiveness is to first think and repeat the sentence of let it be. For example if one of the person named A is teased by B for some or the other reason, the attitude of A should not be to respond as though responding in the same manner may yield the complications, problems, quarrels etc, instead should think to forgive him that movement -you will find automatically the things get soften.
Now once the things get soften, the next step will be to forget.
The attitude of forget
It is the area or scope which has the power to solve the problems of world. The problem which can be of any type, either between the countries of the world, between the states of the country, between the communities or group of people between the houses or families or between the individuals.
If the people start forgetting their differences, their will be happiness in and around, resulting into peace and prosperity. This thing again can be understood or simplified from natures point of view. As the Mother Nature and earth forgive the harm done to them by the human frequently in several areas, which we can very well understand. Similarly they have the tremendous power to forget the deeds, misdeeds or leads of any of the type of human. Since beginning the earth has swallowed the famous or infamous creatures in the stomach of anonymity and kept on again giving birth to the new one, to the different one, to the specific one, who is all together different from previous one, resulting into a rise of creativity. Here the mother earth teaches us many things, which has to be understood and implemented, that if we keep the attitude of forgive and forget, we will just find a difference in ourselves, our living style and will come up.
Why we are talking about ourselves
It is so because this ourselves if being followed will automatically bring full selves, as if every individual goes like this it will result into the society which will act like this and so the state and the country and then the whole world. Thus this attitude of forgive and forget, if kept always, and do every thing or any of the thing with patience, no power into his world can obstruct you from gaining success. We feel that you are getting our point, our indication, what we are trying to say and explain that is the same what was being followed by Gandhiji. It is only because of his, this attitude, and thoughts was able to change the era. To which even the powerful Britishers were forced to bow. So imagine the power of this forgive and forget and feel the difference. Act accordingly you will be in heaven always.
Ken Keyes noted that we create the world in which we live: “The world tends to be your mirror. A peaceful person lives in a peaceful world. An angry person creates an angry world. An unfriendly person should not be surprised when he/she meets only people who sooner or later respond in an unfriendly way.”
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