“Life is the continuous adjustment of internal relations to external relations.”-Herbert Spencer
The purpose behind writing this article is to make the youths realise the need of the present situation, demand of the time. As “adjustment” can be defined as a process of altering one’s behaviour to reach a harmonious relationship with their environment. This is typically a response brought about by some type of change that has taken place. Research shows that the present generation in maximum seems to be aggressive and in no mood to adjust themselves with the circumstances coming in the daily walks of life. The mind of the youth in general is very sensitive and wants the success or achievement immediately. They don’t have patience to adjust themselves with the consequences. Basically everything is explained by our nature itself viz., our body has immense capability of shaping, moving, changing and adjusting itself as per the atmosphere and surrounding up to a certain limit. There are several examples for that and can be quoted and assumed in our day to day life. Not just human being, animals do also teach us the value of adjustments. For example, the chameleon adjust itselves according to the situation and surrounding by changing its colour. Similarly the nature too does have the capacity to adjust it as per the conditions and keep on bearing many of the harmful things or activities done by the human being. Now this adjustment of nature has its limitations and after its limit being crossed the nature become furious and punishes the human being in totality. But this limitation of nature i.e. the adjustment capacity of nature is unimaginable. In the similar way ours adjustment capacity should also be at par. Well, we agree that it has its limitations. An example of a newly married girl can be very well quoted in this direction. Such newly married girl is being told by her parents that this is a start of her new life, with new house and new people, so should have the capacity to adjust her with the others. It is seen that the girl who follows enjoys a successful life and good relations with every one, while on the other hand the girl who don’t have to suffer a lot with several hardships.
One more such example strikes our mind, when while studying two or more boys or girls live together by taking a room/flat or a room in hostel, have to adjust themselves with each other or else possibly can’t survive or live together for a along time.
As stated by our respected principal, guide, teacher, an excellent administrator and a fatherly figure Prof PM Kolte that everything does not go as per our desire and liking. One should definitely try to make the things possibly run or happen as per our desire, but if it does not happen, we should drop that idea and be flexible enough to adjust ourselves as per the situation which will keep us and others pleased and happy. On the other hand, if we keeps on looking for the things to happen as per our desire because of our un-adjustment qualities there are immense chances of suffering, distress, depression, aggressiveness, complications, quarrel etc, and several other drawbacks which you even can’t imagine.
It is said that life is full of adjustment as it depends and changes as per the situation.
Adjustment too means taking care of feelings of others, their demand their liking etc., if we have the capacity, capability and desire of taking care of others we will have the same or get the same as a reward in same or the other way. It definitely works in some or the other way in the invisible form.
Adjustment also means changing of thoughts as per the situation.
Adjustment has various meaning as per the matter of various subjects, but psychologically it means, the behavioural process of balancing conflicting needs, or needs against obstacles in the environment.
Adjustment is a key to making relationships work. When our relationships work then it affords more peace, balance, and value for living. Adjustment is making the gap that exists between personality and preference differences smaller – it’s reducing that gap.
Adjustment takes resilience. Resilience is developed; it’s acquired over years of practice. To become effective and consistent adjusters we have to practice and therefore we need opportunity to practice these skills.
If you don’t adjust with the life and others you may suffer into the adjustment disorder such as an abnormal and excessive reaction to a life stress, such as starting school, getting divorced, or experiencing grief, which may cause for adults marital or financial problems and for adolescents, common stressors which may include family conflict, school problems, and sexuality issues.
When we have to adjust we should just smile. We should smile because to show that we are capable of adjusting. It will give us enormous satisfaction that we can overcome seemingly confounding obstacles – but it’s only with our faith in God that we are able to do it. We should pray a lot. That means we ask for help – a lot. We should understand that we can’t do it all on our own. So when we do adjust and have a heart and mind that is not phased with the requirement to adjust, we can thank God for his peace in settling the matter in question within us.
At last we would like to state that, adjusting to others ultimately makes us happier than expecting others to adjust to us. Selflessness in the key to happiness and joy. Selfishness will drive happiness and joy away.
“A well adjusted person is one who makes the same mistake twice without getting nervous.”
(The writers are Lecturer in Comm., G.S.College of Comm. & Eco. Nagpur and Lecturer in Commerce DNC, Nagpur, and can be contacted at Warden House, G.S.College Hostel, W.H.C Road, Civil Lines, Nagpur-01. (M.S) INDIA. Email – [email protected])